Subject: You are the evidence Last time, I wrote about love—and how love is the willingness to trade discomfort for future joy. If you haven’t read it yet, that piece lives in the archive here: [[26-2-9]]. Today I want to talk about how we build a worldview. A worldview isn’t something concrete or objective. It’s a model you carry around of what the world is like: what people are like, what motivates them, and what kind of outcomes you should expect. And like every model, it’s built from data. If you have many experiences in your memory where people treated each other kindly, it becomes easy to believe that people are kind. Similarly, if you have many experiences in your past where people treated each other poorly, it becomes easy to believe that humans are cruel. Now here’s the question I want to offer: Who, in your memories, is involved in the highest number of them? Which person’s intentions do you clearly understand in all cases? Whose knowledge of the situation do you have at all times? The answer is you. You’ve been involved in every experience you’ve ever had. You always know what’s going on in your head and your intentions behind your actions, and you always have a full understanding of the knowledge you possessed when you made decisions. So here’s what I’m suggesting: the way you view other people—and the way you view the world—is most impacted by your own actions. This can’t be cheated. We can’t convince ourselves of a memory that isn’t true. Memories have to be real. And real memories require real decisions. Every time you choose love, you add evidence to your worldview that love exists—because you just watched a human do it. And every time you choose cruelty, you add evidence that cruelty is what humans do under pressure—because, again, you just watched a human do it. So here’s a practice I’m experimenting with: Make decisions informed by love, kindness, and meaning rather than decisions of comfort, fairness, and cruelty. Comfort avoids the hard thing and buys relief. Fairness keeps score and demands repayment. Cruelty escalates. Love moves toward what matters. Kindness protects dignity while you do it. Meaning chooses the long-term good over the short-term win. So here’s the invitation: The next time you’re tempted to “let yourself off the hook” with comfort, or to justify yourself with fairness, pause and ask: what kind of world am I training myself to believe in? Then make the choice you’d be proud to remember.